you'll have to explain to me why you are against facebook. I skimmed the article, but I'd like to know why you are against it. ...
Seemed like the point was people are making way too much money of relationships- or am I way off? and if I'm not off- Facebook isn't the only thing making money off of relationships or simple ideas. Look at Blogger :)
She's referring to the article I linked to in the last post. I'm pulling out her comment & my response because my comment started getting long, and, frankly, it's my blog, so I can post it on the front page if I want to! :-P
This isn't a complete explanation of why I've avoided Facebook, but it's my initial thoughts:
The advertising I, too, can put up with- and that's what much of the article is about. Some of the article was about the philosophies behind the founders, which are a little scary but could be put up with as well. My initial hesitation with the social network was disclosing personal information to an unknown computer system. I've noticed us software-developer types seem to be more wary of privacy than others, probably because we know how truly insecure most systems are.
Since my initial hesitations, I really resonate with the first couple paragraphs of the article:
"And does Facebook really connect people? Doesn't it rather disconnect us, since instead of doing something enjoyable such as talking and eating and dancing and drinking with my friends, I am merely sending them little ungrammatical notes and amusing photos in cyberspace, while chained to my desk? A friend of mine recently told me that he had spent a Saturday night at home alone on Facebook, drinking at his desk. What a gloomy image. Far from connecting us, Facebook actually isolates us at our workstations.I've decided to opt out of the popularity contest and instead put my limited time and energy toward face-to-face relationships. I can't afford to take on another online obligation, another time-sink. Every now & then I hear old news about a mutual acquaintance from a friend on Facebook, and I feel a twinge of being "left out", but I get over it, because I know that my friends that really care if I stay in touch make the effort to do so with me through other means and I appreciate that immensely.
Facebook appeals to a kind of vanity and self-importance in us, too. If I put up a flattering picture of myself with a list of my favorite things, I can construct an artificial representation of who I am in order to get approval. It also encourages a disturbing competitiveness around friendship: it seems that with friends today, quality counts for nothing and quantity is king. The more friends you have, the better you are. You are "popular", in the sense much loved in American high schools. Witness the cover line on Dennis Publishing's new Facebook magazine: "How To Double Your Friends List."
Disclaimer: This is not a knock on those who do choose to keep a circle of friends on social networking sites. This is just my explanation of why I choose to spend my time & energy differently.
A side note: How is Blogger different than Facebook? I see it as the amount of control I have over my information. I choose what I put out for the Internet to read. I choose how searchable my information is. I choose the design of my site (I know, it's not that great, but I have creative control over it.) When you search for my name (or my maiden name), this blog is not the first result. What does appear is acceptable to me. Perhaps all these same choices can be made within the social networking sites as well, but I'm choosing a blog as my online social outlet, until I'm given a compelling reason not to.
I know I'm vastly in the minority here. What's your argument for opting in or out of social networking? What benefits have you found, one way or the other?