Monday, I procrastinated on deciding on a dessert for our small group meeting, and finally chose peach cobbler. I had to run to Meijer to get peaches, however. I had the choice to drive, but I walked, thinking that the exercise was good for me and it wouldn't add that much time. I was only kind-of in a hurry. About halfway there, I thought to myself, I KNOW I'm going to run into someone I know at Meijer, get held up talking, and wish I would have driven to save time. I kept walking.
I grabbed my 10 peaches, and was on my way to look for refrigerated pie crusts, when I did run into someone I knew (of course), a classmate from high school. We made polite conversation, she asked what I had been up to. I gave the standard answer: I graduated college last May, am working for a small software consulting company nearby, I got married right after I graduated, and, oh yeah, we just signed a purchase agreement on a house.
I got a reaction that, perhaps I have gotten before from long-lost acquaintances, but hadn't been spoken out loud. She smiled, and sighed, and nodded as she said "So responsible!"
The reaction implied "You're doing everything my parents want me to do" but also "You're settling down & not having any fun!"
I think I'm learning that God has different plans for different people, so I don't need to vehemently defend my choices as the Only Right Way. We're being called to be "so responsible" by tackling life-events in the order that they are presenting themselves, and in the end, there'll be a reason. Others' life-paths may keep a person single for a while longer (or not as long!), or bring kids along sooner, or move them around more, or keep them in school longer. There's no one way to go about things, so I can't defend my way as any more 'responsible' than any other way. It's just different, and 'responsible' for us, in our place in life. God certainly has more excitement in store for us in the years to come. I can't wait.
And, yes, the peach cobbler got cooked in time.