tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post115660001415192266..comments2024-02-29T04:02:48.619-05:00Comments on keeping feet: On Marriage and WorkingJoannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12937512054883534573noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156725700401391362006-08-27T20:41:00.000-04:002006-08-27T20:41:00.000-04:00Anne, thanks for your encouragement. I needed to h...Anne, thanks for your encouragement. I needed to hear an encouraging word about this issue; all of the Christian blogs I read were saying women who worked were irresponsible toward their families and materialistic, only working to support a frivolous lifestyle. I know that's not true, but I felt I was the only one.<BR/><BR/>Ashley, thanks for the apology. I understand where you're coming from, I understand that some women are gifted in home-things, and that is where they should use their gifts and passions-- my mom is one of them, and she was able to stay home. <BR/><BR/>I don't know if it's fair to generalize "God intended women to be the nurturing homemakers". I <I>hope</I> I'm nuturing, and that I make a good, peaceful home, but I don't think that also means I can't work, as long as my priorities are right. Even the Proverbs 31 woman, praised for the care she took of her family, worked. She dealt in real estate ("She considers a field and buys it"), invested ("out of her earnings she plants a vineyard."), and made shrewd business deals ("She sees that her trading is profitable"). That doesn't sound like the stereotypical homemaker or 'soccer mom' to me!Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937512054883534573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156711013062591812006-08-27T16:36:00.000-04:002006-08-27T16:36:00.000-04:00You know, Joanna, I have been thinking about my la...You know, Joanna, I have been thinking about my last comment and I want to apologize. I think I feel into that tendency of mine to push my convictions on to others. That isn't right, and I'm sorry. I hope you didn't take it negatively, because I didn't mean for it to sound as bad as it did.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982050095869237882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156683138318893052006-08-27T08:52:00.000-04:002006-08-27T08:52:00.000-04:00I love you completely Joanna! You can't look at t...I love you completely Joanna! You can't look at trends and studies about other people to know what will make you happy. Know youself. Talk, and listen. Keep your feelings flowing so that you and Josh can work things through before they are problems. You are a unique creation of God. If we were all alike, I think God would have been tired of creating people a long time ago. Just because you make a decision, doesn't mean you need to stick with it if it doesn't work out, nor does it mean it was a wrong decision. Sometimes we need to walk through things just for the wisdom that experience can give us.<BR/><BR/>Remember that happiness is an attitude. It is easier to change circumstances than to look too closely at ourselves. True happiness comes when we are at peace with our Savior. That does not depend on someone else's methods or interpretations of what God's plan is for our life.annie bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03980681239734843143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156646463872582152006-08-26T22:41:00.000-04:002006-08-26T22:41:00.000-04:00I think mothers should stay home with their kids, ...I think mothers should stay home with their kids, if at all possible. I think God intended women to be the nurturing homemakers, and men to be the breadwinners. I have no problem with women working from home, but I do have a problem with women shuffling their kids off to be raised by a daycare.<BR/><BR/>But those are my thoughts. I have noticed I am a lot more conservative than you are, so feel free to disregard what I say. I also think this is a situation that doesn't need to be dealt with until the time comes, although I know for me I have every intention of staying home full-time once my kids come, and doing freelance graphic design from home if we need extra money. But that's just my situation.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982050095869237882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156620882792547092006-08-26T15:34:00.000-04:002006-08-26T15:34:00.000-04:00Thanks for your thoughts Ashley.Y'know, Beth, I'm ...Thanks for your thoughts Ashley.<BR/><BR/>Y'know, Beth, I'm not sure. I'll obviously stay home with the baby for a little while, and I <I>know</I> I'll hate leaving my kids with a daycare/babysitter, but I may try it. Other people have done it, with their kids turning out just fine. At the very least, if I do stay home, I'll probably try to work from home to some extent- that's the great thing about the technology field; I can be anywhere and access what I need to. The company I'm at now, the hours are very flexible, which I kow will be a great thing through pregnancy and with kids at home.<BR/><BR/>Or Josh may stay home, though I'd be very jealous of him. We'll talk about it when the time comes. And that won't be for a few years. My mom stayed home after she had 2 kids, and I'm glad she did. It will be a hard decision for me.Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937512054883534573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156615539830051732006-08-26T14:05:00.000-04:002006-08-26T14:05:00.000-04:00Will you continue to work full-time once you have ...Will you continue to work full-time once you have children?Beth @ The Natural Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06702094412517613685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156602602287913492006-08-26T10:30:00.000-04:002006-08-26T10:30:00.000-04:00Sorry for that long comment. :-)Sorry for that long comment. :-)ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982050095869237882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6832486.post-1156602586172821552006-08-26T10:29:00.000-04:002006-08-26T10:29:00.000-04:00This is an issue I've been really wrestling with r...This is an issue I've been really wrestling with right now. I don't WANT to work full time. I want to do part-time freelance graphic design from my house, more because I enjoy design rather than I want a paycheck. I want to go shopping during the day, learn how to cook, keep the house clean, have time to cut coupons and research the best way of running a household.<BR/><BR/>Yet, my husband left college with a really high amount in loans. I can't do anything about that, and I can't expect him to pay off the loans and support me at the same time. Therefore, I must work. All day at the office, I wish I was at home. I am unhappy.<BR/><BR/>The think I've been wrestling with is: am I unhappy because I'm working, or am I unhappy because of my attitude and desire to live a life on the other side of the fence? This is what I don't know. Paul (who probably knows me better than anyone else) thinks it's the latter. He thinks once I quit my job and stay home, I'll be bored. He's probably right... I just don't know how to change my attitude.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to tackle this subject soon in my blog. I've been working on a post, trying to decide the best way to approach it. In short, I think some women are more cut out to be Suzy Homemakers than others. Though my mom stayed home with us the whole time we were growing up, she was bored and restless once we were in college or high school. She was eager to get back to work, and she loves working. God made some women to love being at home, and other women to love working. I think the most important thing is that women put their family first - and if they can serve their husbands while working full time, then so be it! The question is, where do I fall and should I do something about it? I really honestly don't know.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982050095869237882noreply@blogger.com